The State of Humility

Humility in America.  Is that an oxymoron?  Great men and women are often credited with it, yet humility is nearly always associated with weakness and disregarded by the general public.
“Humility is an unpopular — one might say barely considered, hence untaught — virtue, but it is the key to developing a fully virtuous life and a just society. The practice of humility does not allow one to serve a perception of one’s own power, nor to reduce other people to “things” or objects. Rather, rather it forces one to consider the gifted humanity of the other; it understands the privilege of known and serving the other”

The article was addressing Harvey Weinstein and the culture of Hollywood that allows men like him to escape consequences.  But I find it just as pertinent to the discussion about gun violence in America.  Sunday’s shooting in Sutherland Springs, Texas,  had a very strong thread of domestic violence.

Since 1982, 88 violent mass shootings have been committed by men compared to 2 by women.  Overall, 90% of all murderers in America are men.

This is so stunning, I can’t move past it.  We have a culture of extreme individualism and machismo. I knew this.  But women are living proof, evidently, that humans can show restraint and find better outlets for their anger and injured pride.

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November 6, 2017

Looking out my window I can see signs of Autumn everywhere.  My yard is lonely on this gray, rainy day.

I am thinking about humility and the overall lack of it in our culture. How does a society even cultivate a spirit of humility when it isn’t even a fruit of the spirit that we value?

I am thankful to be blessed with a spirit of thankfulness.  At this moment, I’m thankful for progressive lenses.  I never thought I would stop wearing contacts, but that I have.  I do put in my contacts (also progressive these days – finally) on sunny days so I can wear sunglasses when I’m driving.  Purple sunglasses.  Something else to be thankful for!

I am creating a new space in my living room and playroom.  New “built in” shelves along one wall have taken the place of boring old bookshelves.  We hung fake brick paneling on the wall before setting up the Ikea shelves, sans back.  Now these two spaces feel more connected.  And the living room feels much brighter without the dark, formal bookshelves.

I am wearing black capri leggings (surprise!), a teal mock turtleneck, new SmartWool socks, and old tennis shoes.  And my glasses.

I am watching NCIS: New Orleans, now in Season 3 and almost caught up.  Have you ever noticed how so. many. television shows recreate the family in the workplace?

I am hoping for a new placement.  Still.  It’s been two months since our last blessings went to their great-grandparents.  I’m craving the chaos that comes with having little ones in the house.

I am learning about hygge.

Hygge (/ˈhjuːɡə/ HEW-gə or /ˈhuːɡə/ HOO-gə) is a Danish and Norwegian word which can be described as a quality of cosiness and comfortable conviviality that engenders a feeling of contentment or well-being (regarded as a defining characteristic of Danish culture).

In my kitchen I’ve actually been cooking again.  Even when it’s just me.  It is really hard to cook for only one when you are used to cooking for a crowd!  I’m thinking that leftovers will be the key for me.  Last night I had leftover hashbrown casserole with dippy eggs on top.  Yum.  On the menu:  leftover ham and bean soup and beef pot pie from Sunday Dinner leftovers.


Oh how the mighty have fallen…

No, it’s not cheeseburger.  Or a McDouble.  It’s a double (more MEAT!) quarter pounder with cheese.  And I may even have eaten some fries. 

It took not eating at McDonald’s for eight months before it would make me sick when I did indulge.  It’s took about two weeks to get used to it again. 😐  Today, I didn’t even pretend I don’t eat there and went straight for the MEAT. 

So what does that have to do with humility?  Once upon a time I felt that people only ateat  McDonalds because it’s cheap (big families gotta eat, too) or because they weren’t as enlightened as those of us who were intelligent enough to recognize how awful the place is.  Same with whole foods cooking. 

I. was. wrong.  

It’s survival.  And I realize now that I would still feed my first two “crap”, because that’s what I have time and energy for. I would also still buy paper plates and napkins, despite my new environmental awareness. And the stack of cloth napkins under the sink. (Which were really cheap Walmart washcloths, and they are awesome for washing the babies at the sink.)

I need to remember this the next time I want to beat myself up with all the parenting “mistakes” I made in the 90s.